What is love? Is there truly a definition of what love is? It can be perceived as different sensations. We love in many different ways. We can allow love to flourish and unfold by itself and delight ourselves with such an extraordinary experience. Love is also this exquisite feeling that brings a smile, a sense of joy to our lives. Most of us believe that love is the best feeling of them all. The Bible says what love is in Corinthians 13; the great poets talk about love, the great singers at one point of their lives sing about love. Amazing and extravagant writers try to explain what love is, and the feelings and sensations that it brings. I like to say and believe that love is the answer. With total faith, I believe that love heals.
Love changes the way we perceive situations. It generates excitement. It gives us that extra kick in the but that we need to go forward. There is also a fine line between love and disappointment. That line is so fine that sometimes it can be misinterpreted as heart brokenness. When in reality, it is just the disappointment of not having our expectations met. What if no one ever broke our heart? Instead, I like to remind myself they just didn’t comply with our expectations, leaving us with the sensation of being heartbroken.
Have you ever experienced so much sadness or found yourself in a horrible situation? When my father was murdered, I experienced so much pain, and so much sadness; I was almost unable to breathe. When we find ourselves in those horrible situations, we think that there is no way out. Eventually, we may meet someone who brings us back to love. He or she represents “love” in such a unique way that it is impossible to ignore. That representation of love allows us to keep going. We start to feed off the love that they are giving. We open our hearts again. He or she makes it possible to elevate our emotions so we can slowly start the healing process.
It has been scientifically proven that cuddling with a loved one also releases Oxytocin, “the cuddling or love hormone.” It also influences the digestive system as much as it influences the brain. It has been proven by numerous studies that oxytocin relieves headaches. Love does heal.
I like to emphasize the importance of not only loving others and allowing ourselves and experiencing that extraordinary feeling that falling that love brings. But, the importance of having that love for our own persona; to start looking in the mirror and say “I love you” That self-love allows us to respect ourselves so others can have that same respect toward our beautiful persona. Respect is an act of self-love.
How do we generate more love in our lives? Very simple “BE LOVE.” Let’s remember whatever we give out comes back to us. Love is an act of kindness and compassion. Being “love” also requires practice. Love comes from within. To be able to give and be love, we must feel it inside. Therefore, it will radiate in a way that when we walk into a room people will see and feel the love that we are. I encourage you to start engaging in this beautiful act of “being love.” Tell the people you love often, that selfyou love them. Tell yourself I love you. It may sound corny, but it does make a difference.