Learning that Who You are is Beautiful
Yesterday while swimming in the local college pool, I spotted two lesbian lifeguards. They were young, in their early 20’s with life and summer stretching out before them. They were relaxed, confident, and physically comfortable. They sat, in bathing suits and sunglasses, sprawled with the loose physicality of athletes. As I swam toward their end of the pool, I thought about how much life has changed, particularly for gays and lesbians.
Not so long ago, the dominant culture regarded gays as defective, shameful, and as something to be hidden. I can still remember the coded conversation between Rosie O’Donnell and Ellen and the moment at the microphone when our beloved Ellen finally came out on national television in April 1997. It seems like everything has changed and yet…
If you’ve lived through shadowy times, if you’ve had to alter pronouns, hide pictures, or pretend to be straight, how has it affected your life, your physical being, and the energy you project into the world? It is important just to notice these things. How many of us still hold a part of ourselves in reserve? Still mask our identity? Still compromise our real and beautiful selves?
Coming into full authenticity can be difficult, especially if your spirit retains the memory of rejection, distaste, and living ‘the love that dared not speak its name’. But we must. Learning and storing deep in our cellular memories that who we are is beautiful is one of the most important spiritual journeys that we will ever take. It transforms us and helps heal the world around us.
Who you are is beautiful, just the way you are, and just the way that you were created. You are life’s gift to the world.