Cleaning up the Past
“Rien de Rien” – Edith Piaf
In my life, I’ve met only one person who claims to have no regrets and I believe her. She is a kind and generous woman who always tries to give her best. But, I know many other wonderful, deep-hearted individuals of all ages who live with a startling amount of regrets. When I suggest the idea cleaning up the past, almost everyone can identify.
Cleaning up the past can radically restore energy in the present as Lee Kravitz found in his book, Unfinished Business, One Man’s Extraordinary Year of Trying to Do the Right Things. The 55-year-old author, a laid off P/R man with dim prospects of recreating his income, decides instead to revisit his past and to spend a year cleaning up the unfinished business in his life. I love the premise and the outcomes that he experienced were life altering. Kravitz began to feel proud of himself again and perhaps even more importantly, the work that he did healed, blessed, and touched others.
How good it is to clean up the past, to right the wrongs that happened years ago and to make peace with our experiences while we are still alive. It’s quite possible that we are holding things against ourselves because we believe we have failed, disappointed those we love, or been harmed by people who should have loved and protected us. These recurrent thoughts can steal our energy and prevent us from living in the present.
As I think about the regrets in my life, some are quite small. Some happened with strangers. Most happened because I didn’t know better or wasn’t yet the person I hoped to become. There is a starting place where we can begin to clean up the past, to right the wrongs, and to free ourselves into a new lightness of spirit so that we can begin to experience all of the good that we really are and begin to accept all that we deserve.
Why not give it a try? Is there some niggling regret, some tiny scene that plays out recurrently in your head? Perhaps a small action on your part can help change the outcome forever and finally set you free.