The idea of non-resistance can be profound, offering a much-needed rest from self -recrimination and blame at our inability to change hard times and transcend difficult things. Non-resistance can mean giving up the struggle, providing a novel approach to an old, painful circumstance. Embracing what is and allowing the Divine to do its work can be an act of pure faith in the life of a stuck and suffering human being. Often life throws blows. We feel that we have failed. Despite our most diligent efforts and our best intentions, we remain in the stuck place, feeling abandoned and alone.
Susan Straight’s book title, I’ve Been in Sorrow’s Kitchen and I’ve Licked out all the Pots offers a great visual for the oppressive weight and infinite variety of human suffering. While we are in ‘sorrow’s kitchen,’ it seems as if we are living a uniquely horrible experience thrown down upon us alone, while everyone around us seem to be thriving and swimming in the land of blessings. Sometimes one of the greatest life lessons we can experience is to give up the struggle, to stop resisting, to lay our burdens down, and to really put our faith in whatever God we believe in, knowing that we are guided, protected, and surrounded by a Power that is moving us to a place of more love, more joy, more awareness of our life’s purpose and who we really are at the core of our soul.
What if we were to give up the struggle, simply let things be, stop blaming ourselves, and just trust life’s process? My dear friend, Jeanne Fryer, who died of lung cancer and taught almost to the end of her life, often said to her graduate students, “I’m going to love my little cancer cells.” She did love them and she did die but what an amazing lesson to witness, the possibility of non-resistance. When we try loving what is, we can offer inspiration, a new way of being. We can release the struggle and see what comes.